Birmingham Fetishmen


A place for men from Birmingham, the Midlands and the rest of the country to meet in their gear.

Next Event

BFM X with DJ Craig Law

Feb 3rd 2024 - Boltz Club 10pm - Late


We are an inclusive group of gear heads that hold social events for men, those who identify as men, transmasculine, and non-binary people who live in the West Midlands, but some do travel from Scotland. Wales and even as far afield as that there London.

The events allow like-minded gear heads to hang out in a safe and non-judgmental environment. Whilst we do have a dress code, there is absolutely no requirement to be wearing new or expensive gear, just that you have made an effort.

We usually hold 4 big events a year, in Birmingham. Full details of the schedule and how to get tickets can be found on the events page.

Where possible, BFM tries to utilise local or national LGBT+ businesses to support our events, from amazing cabaret performers to our back-end web, ticketing and printing solutions. We are committed to being an active part of supporting our community.

Meet the team

Nick is the president of BFM and has been with us from the start.


Krys handles most of the back office things, and is our safeguarding lead.



Your friendly neighbourhood person on the door and our socials person


Lee helps with the organisation of events and on the door


Everyones favourite social butterfly helping the events to run smoothly


Our newest recruit, supporting us all to get the events running

Our financial wizzard, and keeps Nick and Krys being to left-field in planning the events


The man with the bags, and helping to keep us all safe on the night



Another social butterfly to keeping the events running smoothly

Our events

BFM Social

our nights for you all to hang out and socialise with like minded gearheads. With Cabaret, a DJ and our infamous raffle


Introduced in 2023, with a top DJ and play spaces. bfmx is an event for dance, drinking and dark spaces.

dates for 2024

BFM Social


Our usual mix of entertainment, music and madness

our heavier night with a top dj and play spaces

may bank holiday mayhem

May 4th 2024. 9.30pm until late

With Blanche & DJ Jord


Feb 3rd 2024. 10pm until late


OCT 26th 2024. 9.30pm until late

on sale soon


AUG 3rd 2024. 10pm until late

on sale soon


I’m new to the fetish scence and nervous about attending

Honestly no need to worry, our team will offer you a warm welcome and if you would like, introduce you to some of the other friendly faces at the event.

Are you inclusive?

Yes. We use accessible venues for our events, and all men, those who identify as men and masc non-binary people are welcome. We have zero tolerance to all forms of discrimination

Do you allow walk-ins or on the door payments?

Tickets are usually in high demand, so we recommend purchase in advance. We allow walk-ins and card only payment on the door, up-to maximum venue capacity.

Is there a dress-code

Yes, we have a dress-code policy for admission, full details are on the dress-code page.


Follow us

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We have an active private facebook group you are welcome to join and you can also follow us on twitter and Instagram. We post regular updates about events and it's a great space to meet like-minded friends.

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